Inner Guidance – Recognizing Resistance – A Real Life Story

Sometimes in our eagerness to plunge in to something that just catches our attention, we tend to lose sight of our very clear inner guidance. Not all immediate opportunities that present themselves are positive and in our best interests. Sometimes they are just THERE. An opportunity or choice may look quite intriguing. But it is critical to truly assess it with your mind, your heart and your intuition!

I am going to share a story about my daughter’s experience with finding a new apartment. Coming off a challenging roommate experience, and resolute about now having her very own space, she plunged in and seized one of the the first apartments that was available. She did have us come take a look at it, but my husband and I were not as enthusiastically enamored by it. To me, the “energy” of the place did not feel too comfortable. I also had that sense of intuitive rumbling that this little apartment was not going to be all that my firstborn envisioned it would be.

However, we did not wish to ruin her enthusiasm and sense of independence. In the parental sense of allowing our children to learn and grow, we needed to let her make her own decisions. Whatever the outcome would be, it would be.

The apartment was not an actual straightforward rental, but a co-op that was being sublet by the owner. What ensued was major red-tape paperwork. Plus my daughter had to make an appearance before the co-op Board to see if they approved of her — and of her finances. Trying to be there for her, we were a bit daunted, reading complex application/contract forms filled with legalese. There were also too many quirky rules and regulations about living in this particular building.

The apartment itself had signs of insect infestation, that looked to have been somewhat, but not completely cleared up. There were some problems with windows and some plumbing issues.

On moving day (of which there were many rules about this being limited to certain days of the week and certain times) my husband and I rented the truck, and along with a few others, physically pitched in to help with the actual moving. Awakening to a day of pelting rain (a warning omen perhaps?) the moving experience was extremely physically exhausting, plus we were chilled and soaked from the nonstop downpour.

In addition, my daughter, who was having some ongoing mystifying physical pain, finally was able to arrange a medical test — and the only time diagnostic facility could fit her in was that afternoon! So she ran off to get her medical test (all tests came back fine) and I was left to be the mainstay in the apartment, as the others — strong males — were busy lugging in heavy boxes and furniture. I had to use the bathroom, and not much later, the building superintendent showed up at the doorway. “The toilet is leaking,” he informed me. I looked at him puzzled, “No, it’s not — I didn’t see any leak.” “Well the people in the apartment downstairs DID!” I was horrified and disheartened about this, but I made the Super assure me that this plumbing problem would be corrected quickly.

However, my daughter was without plumbing and couldn’t spend her first night in the new place after all

As the year wore on, it became obvious that there was a HUGE insect problem, to the point where my daughter discovered that her microwave had become a condominium for resident bug population, and so had to discard the appliance. Also, midway through the lease, the owner of the co-op decided she was going to put the place on the market. Now my daughter had the inconvenience and frustration of Realtors and potential owners traipsing through her apartment at all odd times.

She was relieved when the lease was up, and finally acknowledged that she should have been more attuned to the “warning” signs — both the practical as well as those pointed out by our inner guidance systems. All of us had felt resistance at the beginning of this apartment-dwelling ordeal, but my daughter had simply chosen to pay it no heed. She did admit to me later on that she had learned quite a bit from this, and has since moved forward (literally) into the more uplifting space of a new apartment — which is truly perfect, joyful and filled with positive energy.

In sharing this experience, I am not saying to ignore fascinating and potentially good opportunities. I am simply pointing out that it is wise to approach with caution if you are noticing some of those potential “red flags” flying in the emotional and intuitive breeze. Assess a situation carefully, especially when you feel that nagging tug of resistance arising from your heart and mind.

Affirmations:

• I tap in to my inner guidance to assess new situations and opportunities.
• I welcome new opportunities that resonate with my innate sense of what is right for me.
• I gravitate toward plans and circumstances that cause me to feel joyful!